Finishing the unfinished...tips for getting things done!

The energy taken to be self-compassionate and engage the kind mind is exactly how I started this sentence...energy consuming!

As I write this, I think to my inspiration for the post. The title - Finishing the unfinished. I've many a blog post half written. I want to finish the posts. Yet I start a new one...it's my Neurospicy brain all over. I obviously don't start things with the intention of not finishing them, but I can assure you I have many unfinished projects...

I try to tell myself I'm ok with that - hence the energy consumed for self compassion!! I mean a part of me is ok with that as let's face it, if I'm not ok with it I'm causing myself a lot of unnecessary distress at the thought of competing all of those unfinished projects! But the part of me that's not ok with it, is here doing something about it. Not finishing any of the incomplete posts but starting a new one right here. It's gotta make you laugh. I love how my brain works...there is logic behind the madness!

Which leads me on to some tips... I started writing this post, with the intention that no matter what, I was going to focus and get this particular blog posted. Why this one though? Because I changed my mindset towards it. I said I'm going to complete this, that I am choosing to start!

I was tossing and turning, feeling physically shattered, but my mind wouldn't switch off (no surprise there!); amongst the 101 thoughts racing through my head - as I try to focus on my tranquil bedtime piano sounds - up pops the memory of the entry I started writing before I went on holiday. It then got me reflecting on my (many) unfinished posts. Why hadn't I finished writing them and posted them? Nothing was stopping me but myself and how I was going about the task (and so many other tasks might I add).

Time blindness is significantly underestimated in those with ADHD. I start writing posts when the thought comes to my mind but the reality is, these are not always at the most convenient of times... through not allowing myself time to complete the task, I'm already setting myself up to fail. Now this is not new information to me, surprisingly! Yet I still find myself in that trap!

This is where the energy consuming, but necessary, self compassion comes in. I accept that despite my efforts to stay on track, and do the things I support teaching others to do, my Neurospicy mind will at times prevail. I understand why. I've had a lot of social activities recently and I'm completely out of my normal routines so I'm a bit discombobulated but I am able to be fluid which I need to be, to survive the world not built for me (for so many more reasons than just my Neurodiversity!).

My goal for starting blogging was to have a space to thought dump and normalise the day-to-day experiences of a Neurospicy person - moí. A Black Neurospicy RMN & Psychotherapist. I reminded myself that it's ok to have so many things unfinished as I know I always get them finished eventually (especially if I have a deadline to work to and it's an important enough task for my time).

I've revised my blogging goals for the new year to make them more SMART, as upon reflection that is also part of being compassionate to myself. The goals I had previously set were not achievable or realistic (clearly), therefore deflating me further. So now I have a goal that I can back differently, thus mindset changed and here's the product of that...a (nearly) completed post.

I feel proud in this moment as I nearly hit the post button. I truly believe I'll be able to sleep that little bit more peacefully tonight knowing I've got one less thing going round in my head.

Although I still obviously have many unfinished posts, I'm ok with that. I accept I may never finish all of them, but I'll give a nod to the ones that do end up being shared.

I'm ok with that - my solid coping statement. It's a new one but quite factually correct to my new mindset. It's neither a negative, nor a positive response; aptly somewhere in the middle. Allowing for emotions that do not invoke too strong a physiological response and curbing any negative spiralling thoughts before they even come into fruition...

And finally...to you, for taking the time to read this, I hope you are able to take something away from what you've read. Whether you're Neurospicy or neurotypical, we all have unfinished tasks; make a plan to get it finished or make a plan to let go of any negative vibes you're sending your own way, as you're in control. Why not control remaining the optimum version of yourself!